Here is the link the Details article I mentioned last night, about the "stigma of the never married man." (And apropos of another conversation, here's a fun one on "strays," i.e. straight guys whom everyone thinks are gay.)
Re the never married man ... I was thinking about this earlier, and I know plenty of fabulous women at x age and beyond, and I don't think of any of them in the same way that we view the Never Married Man. I've decided that it isn't the simple fact that the guy isn't married at x age that pushes him into the pathetic-creepster zone. It's the attitidue and accessories.
If a man is single and in his late thirties or early forties, it's probably because he spent far too much time dating hot young things instead of his fabulous and age-appropriate peers. Maybe he had a long-term serious relationship that never worked out, or he just never met the right person. But mostly he didn't meet the right person because he was busy with the hot Starbucks barista or trainer from his gym.
Once that hot girl starts to be 15 or 20 years younger than he is ... it's pathetic and creepy. And his fabulous, age-appropriate peers turn a jaundiced eye towards a man who spent his late-twenties and thirties hunting bimbos and honing his muscle definition. Having spent their own time honing their character and conversation skills via volunteer endeavors and witty banter over cocktails with girlfriends, the women of his age cohort are now out of his league. Who wants to marry a guy who hasn't had an adult conversation with a female in over a decade?
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